I hear it time and time again from new moms.
“I don’t have time to meditate.” I get it. I’ve been there. Thrice. Of course it’s amazing if you can “make time” for your practice, but there are ways to get creative and sneak meditation in here and there throughout your day.
Here are my top ten mom hacks to experience a meditative mind each and every day. Have something to add to the list? Comment below so we can all benefit!
Get up early. Rise before your children do, sneak out of bed, tiptoe to your sacred space, and hop to it. A meditation teacher I know uses the acronym RPM- Rise, Pee, Meditate. (I like to brush my teeth first so that would be RPBM).
Breathe long and deep while you’re nursing or bottle feeding your baby. If baby isn’t looking for eye contact from you, that’s your cue to close your own eyes, roll them up and inward to focus at the brow point, and slow down your breath. Inhale while mentally chanting “Sat” (truth), exhale while mentally chanting “Nam” (identity). Use Sat Nam to affirm “Truth is my essence” with each and every breath.
Floor time, tummy time, toy time. When your baby is safely engaged in something besides YOU, take advantage of the opportunity to turn your own focus inward, even for 1-3 minutes.
Bath time. When your child is old enough to sit unassisted in the bath but still needs close supervision, be right there in the bathroom with him/her, but take a few moments to find your center with some long deep breathing, breath of fire, right or left nostril breathing, whatever it is you need at that moment.
Babywearing & Walking. Get baby secured on your chest or back and head for the trails or even the sidewalk. Use Breathwalk meditation techniques to supercharge your walk and harness the power of rhythmic breathing, mantra, and mudra while in motion. Alternatively, chant while you walk!
In the car! Keep your eyes on the road and your hands on the wheel, obviously! I will often chant in my car, or practice Sitali Pranayama, or Breath of Fire, or Long Deep Breathing on my way to wherever I’m going.
While cooking. Nothing is so nourishing as food cooked with love and infused with the vibrations of mantra chanting. If you're not ready to chant, just play some on the stereo. Try it!
My very favorite- Baby’s first nap of the day. Resist the urge to hop on social media or catch up on laundry. Start at the beginning of baby’s nap or you may find you put it off too long and surprise, nap’s over. With baby snugly and safely down for a nap, you can dive in deep with your meditation practice. Warm up first, with basic spinal flex, and basic spinal twist, some life nerve stretch, and maybe some Kundalini crow squats if you’re up for it. Fold up a firm wool blanket, sit up tall, and do your work.
Before bed. Once the kids are tucked in, you may feel like flopping into bed yourself. That’s understandable! But I encourage you to take a few minutes for yourself. One of my Peace for Postpartum beta testers, Molly, shared this, “There were times that, out of sheer sleep deprivation or exhaustion, I wanted to lie on the floor and do nothing, but once I meditated, the shift was tremendous.”
Ask for help with the kids so you can make time! When you make your mental and emotional health a priority and set yourself up for success, you will be amazed at the progress you can make!
If you read this far and you’re rolling your eyes because you’ve tried meditation before and found it boring, or if you’re interested in meditation but you have no idea where to start, I want to tell you about Kundalini Meditation as taught by Yogi Bhajan. This, my friends, is where the magic is. Kundalini meditation is where it's at, and it works it's magic in as little as three minutes. It’s perfect for householders (like parents with small children) and it works quickly, directly, and powerfully to shift your consciousness in a big way. There are different meditations to meet your various needs, and that’s what I love the most. In my Peace for Postpartum online meditation course, I’ve compiled the very best meditations for overcoming the unfortunately common postpartum challenges like moodiness, depression, anxiety, rage, birth trauma, and insomnia all into one easy to navigate online platform. The full course contains over 20 meditations, my favorites collected over 10 years of working with moms, and has received rave reviews from participants.
Today I’d like to give you FREE access to 2 of the meditations from this course- one for emotional balance and one for overcoming negativity, frustration and depression. In addition to these two meditations, I'm including a Kundalini Yoga kriya that supports nervous system and glandular balance in this Peace for Postpartum Sampler Series. The Sampler Series will give you a taste of what is possible with Kundalini Yoga & Meditation and you'll have a better idea of whether or not the full Peace for Postpartum course is going to be a good fit for YOU!
Just click the link below to access the FREE Peace for Postpartum Sampler Series!
What an honor to be the very first guest speaker on The Motherhood Bozeman’s new podcast series! A few months ago, I sat down with Jazmin Price, Certified Professional Midwife and founder of The Motherhood Bozeman to talk about finding balance for motherhood through meditation. In this episode, I speak about my work with mothers, give some practical meditation tips and advice, share a story about one of my children using meditation to manage his own emotions, and speak about my upcoming online meditation course for women with postpartum mood and anxiety disorders.
If I could give one piece of advice to every new parent, it wouldn’t actually be a piece of advice at all. I’d take the opportunity to share a breathing exercise that will serve them time and time again. From the first pregnancy to the empty nest, parenting offers plenty of opportunities to experience anxiety, irritation, and anger. Keeping your cool isn’t always easy and parenting while frustrated doesn’t usually go too well. Fortunately, yoga offers us a breathing exercise called “Sitali Pranayama” that can save the day. It’s easy to do, you don’t need any special equipment, and you can even do it while your kids are fighting in the back of the car!
Sitali Pranayama gives power, strength, and vitality while soothing and releasing hot emotions like irritation, shame, and anger. It’s calming, cooling, and brings you back to center. I always teach the pregnant mamas in my prenatal yoga classes this breath as it can be useful during the intensity of labor. Moms with anxiety love it because it slows the breath down and helps them regain a sense of calm and control. Kids love it because it looks silly and they can learn to regulate their own emotions. It’s really a kind of one-size-fits-all yoga wonder!
Knowing Sitali Pranayama (or as we call it in Kids Yoga, “The Really Cool Breath”) is like having a built-in air conditioner in your body. Whether the heat is coming from the outside on a hot summer day or the inside when you’re so upset you feel your blood could boil, Sitali Pranayama is there to cool you off and make you comfortable again.
How to do it: Sit up tall Easy Pose or in a chair, contracting the neck just slightly as if to make a double chin. We call this “Neck Lock,” or Jalandhar Bandh in yoga. Close your eyes (unless you’re driving) and stick out your tongue. Curl your tongue into a tube lengthwise, like a taco shape. Inhale deeply through the rolled tongue, close your mouth, and exhale through the nose. Continue breathing in this way for 3-11 minutes. If you can’t roll and extend your tongue as directed, you may gently hold the tongue between the teeth.
“Mother Roasting is showing up for postpartum women in ways no one else will.” ~The Art of Sacred Postpartum
I’ve been working on something new over the past several months. I’ve got a new title even. I’m now a certified Sacred Postpartum Mother Roaster and am launching a new line of services under the name Seva Shakti Mother Care. Seva means service and Shakti is the divine feminine power. In other words, I take good care of new mamas and treat them like the goddesses they are!
As a newly minted Sacred Postpartum Mother Roaster, I am trained in ancient wise woman traditions of honoring, warming, and nourishing postpartum women as they heal and seal from the rawness of birth. Holding space for women as they close the birth journey and cross the threshold from maiden to mother is a special privilege and I am blessed to able to honor families in this way. Having worked with women in the valley since 2008 as a prenatal yoga teacher and mommy & me yoga teacher, becoming a Mother Roaster seemed a natural extension of the work I’ve already been doing with mothers.
What does that really mean, to be a Mother Roaster? I listen to the birth story and hear how things are really going with the new baby. I serve comforting and nutritive herbal teas and lovingly prepared warming and easily digestible soup. I can offer a handmade flower crown and set up a floral bath which helps a new mama to see herself in the beauty way while symbolically washing away the birth. I help new moms let go of their worst fears in a powerful fire fear release ceremony. Card readings from The Mother Wisdom Deck invite reflection and inspire confidence. As postpartum moms tend to feel cold and stagnant after giving birth I use moxa treatments, v-steams, and a hot stone abdominal press to warm her up again and get the energy flowing. A special sealing ceremony called “Closing of the Bones Sacred Tuck In” brings mom back together physically, energetically, and emotionally. Bengkung belly binding, a Malaysian tradition, provides support to the torso and speeds up the healing process. A mother may choose only a couple of services or she may choose them all. My role is to serve the new mother with loving care and witness her transition into motherhood.
Women may choose to combine Mother Roasting services with private Kundalini Yoga & Meditation sessions for maximum benefit.
I feel so lucky and so blessed that the gong is finally here. An instrument as fine as this is so special and I am eternally grateful to everyone who contributed financially to help manifest this potent gong sound therapy right here in Bozeman, Montana. Since it’s arrival, I have had the great honor of playing it for family, friends, students, other teachers, and even people I had otherwise never met before! I love sensing and feeling the shifts that take place in those resting and relaxing while I play for them, and I love falling into the flow and grace that playing the gong induces. I am in awe of it’s powerful resonance and ability to transform. I hope you’ll decide to try it for yourself!
“The gong is very simple. It is an inter-vibratory system. It is the sound of Creativity itself. The gong is nothing more, nothing less. One who plays the gong plays the universe. The gong is not an ordinary thing to play. Out of it came all music, all sounds, and all words. The sound of the gong is the nucleus of the Word.” ~Yogi Bhajan
“The gong is a sacred threshold. It is a portal that links the finite and the infinite experience of the self. The most sublime instrument of the Yogi is the Gong. It is a musical instrument, a healing tool for the nervous system and a cauldron in which you can create alchemical blends of qualities that open and develop the inner self. The sound of the gong creates deep relaxation, releases you from the torrent of thoughts and stimulates the glandular system to a higher level of functioning. The gong impacts the body and it’s meridians. It releases blocks, reduces tension, and stimulates circulation. The result of this is a reorganization of the emotional energy and feelings that are tied into the body structure.”
Excerpted from The Art of the Gong in Kundalini Yoga & Meditation by Yogi Bhajan, Ph.D. and Gurucharan Singh Khalsa, Ph.D.
I am pleased to announce that I am now offering private Gong Sound Therapy Sessions in addition to playing the gong during savasana after select classes and workshops. My instrument is a hand selected 32 inch Paiste Symphonic Gong from Soul of the Gong. The gong is the most potent form of sound therapy I’ve ever come across, and I would be honored to play for you. Choose from 90 minute (Yoga, Meditation, and Gong), 60 minute (Yoga & Gong), and 30 minute (Gong only) options. Private and Semi-Private appointments are available. Please call me at (406) 595-2547 to arrange a session.
Over the past 9 months, I’ve been studying Hatha Yoga with local teacher Nancy Ruby in her YogaMotion teacher training. It’s been an incredible journey of transformation infused with love and joy. Here I am accepting my certificate at our teacher training graduation ceremony last night. I look forward to sharing BOTH Kundalini and Hatha Yoga with our sweet community! Namaste!
(photo credit Neil Hetherington)
A few months ago I stumbled across at post in my Facebook feed from a musician in the Kundalini Yoga community named Livtar. It read, “Does anyone want to write a short review (a few words or sentences) of the sadhana cd Aquarian Dream to help get it out there? Thanks, Livtar.” My interest was sparked, you see, because although I love Morning Sadhana, my practice of this special pre-dawn yoga & meditation experience had been sporadic to non-existent and in dire need of resurrection and restoration. In the back of my mind I’d always thought that someday I’d get into doing Morning Sadhana more regularly, even every day. Someday, when the kids are older, when I don’t have to worry about tiptoeing around in order to not waken everyone else. Someday when I get enough sleep and we all go to bed early enough. Someday…………
One of the Five Sutras for the Aquarian Age is “When the time is on you, start, and the pressure will be off.” Over the past year I’ve been really feeling the pressure to get going on this Morning Sadhana practice. All I needed was a little inspiration to get started! Traditionally done 2.5 hours before sunrise, carving out the time and obeying the alarm clock are essential to beginning this practice and over time the body’s natural rhythms will synchronize with the practice of Morning Sadhana and waking up will become effortless.
My yoga space sits in front of a large east facing window- with a view of the sunrise and the Bridger Mountain range- though it’s dark when I begin and my eyes are closed during this time to go within. Sadhana is as much of a spiritual practice as it is a lesson in self-discipline. By cleaning the subconscious mind through meditation at a time when the sun’s angle to the earth is perfect for this task, we have an opportunity to achieve a kind of victory- a self victory. Life flows easier after Morning Sadhana and I notice that I am able to relate to my children better, I feel more energetic, polished, even sparkly, and I live my life from a higher level of consciousness. I’m on top of my game and the little things that used to bother me don’t seem to be such a big deal any more. And you know what? I don’t even miss the sleep I lost.
Livtar says his new Sadhana album “Aquarian Dream” was made in service to those who practice Sadhana. It’s true. You can feel it. His steady voice carries the mantras in the proper rhythm while maintaining a peaceful meditative space. Grounded and earthy as well as expansive, this album sets the stage for an authentic experience of Morning Sadhana.
I hope you enjoy Livtar’s “Aquarian Dream” as much as I have! You can download it here.
As a parent of two children I’m always happy to find an album of music that is not only fun for the kids, but enjoyable for the adults as well with an uplifting message. Snatam Kaur’s “Feeling Good Today” is a perfect fit for a kids yoga class, jamming out in the car, and playing around or dancing in the house. Sing-songy enough for the little ones to love, intricate enough for the parents to appreciate, and varied enough to suit a range of moods, this album has become a quick favorite in both my home and the studio. Snatam weaves her melodic voice of an angel with the Children’s Kundalini Choir for a truly unique sound. Yogic mantras and yogic philosophy are playfully arranged with a lightness of being while preserving the spiritual integrity of the mantras. The first track “Feeling Good Today” sets the mood and is a great way to start a day with your child! My favorite verse: “God inside is lighting up my way, and I can see that light in your eyes too, and I am feeling good today!” Track 2 “The Sun Shines on Everyone” introduces the concept of spreading peace, life, and love to everyone and praying for everyone, not “making choices” about who we would like to pray for. The third track “I am Happy” is a mantra Yogi Bhajan gave to the children to use when their parents were fighting or in crisis so they could have an experience of remaining stable and unaffected. Simple, catchy, and upbeat, it’s an instant favorite! Track 4 “Gobinday” celebrates the eight aspects of the Infinite. Things really start to get groovy in track 5 “Make the Love Grow!” One of my favorites to have mamas dance to in prenatal yoga, this song starts slow and sweet and gets you up and bouncing and swinging your hips all the while grinning as you sing along “This is the way we make the love grow!” Track 6 is a wonderful song for improving self esteem and honoring one’s self with “I am the Light of the Soul.” Track 7 “Sa Ta Na Ma” celebrates the cycles of life and makes a classic Kundalini Yoga mantra more accessible for children. Track 8, “Adi Shakti” creates awareness of and honors the divine Feminine force of the Universe. And finally, the last track is Snatam’s lovely kids version of “Long Time Sun.” I love to end my Mommy & Me classes with this one!
Parents with older children will also appreciate “Shanti the Yogi: Mountain Adventure,” a kids yoga dvd with Snatam Kaur as teacher. Incorporating storytelling, simple yet elegant imaginative drawings, mantra, movement, yoga and meditation, Snatam leads the children through a beautiful kundalini yoga practice in real time as they use their imagination to follow Shanti on her journey up the mountain.
|Blissful Family Yoga- Blissful Bellies Prenatal Yoga Photos 2011|
Click on the above photograph to view an album of Blissful Bellies Prenatal Yoga photographs. Thanks to Anne Sherwood for taking the photos!